3 Phases of a 'Paul and Timothy' Relationship

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Do you have a 'Paul and Timothy' relationship with anyone? (IStock photo)

Every leader needs mentors and models—typically other leaders just ahead of where they are in their growth and journey. And every leader also needs to be mentoring and modeling those just behind them.

This is the only way for discipleship to take on the multigenerational nature described by Paul in 2 Timothy 2:2: “You have heard me teach things that have been confirmed by many reliable witnesses. Now teach these truths to other trustworthy people who will be able to pass them on to others” (NLT).

In order to both mentor and be mentored effectively, it’s important to see how the relationship between Paul and Timothy developed over time. It unfolded in three phases.

Phase 1: Parenthood

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In Paul’s first letter to Timothy, he addresses him as “my true son in the faith” (1 Tim. 1:2). We first meet Timothy in Acts 16, when Paul is heading out on his second missionary journey. He stops in Lystra to pick up the young disciple who accompanies him, assists him and serves as a sort of apprentice under him. Timothy’s biological father was Greek, but no evidence is ever given that he was a Christian. So Paul filled the shoes of a spiritual father to Timothy.

My heart hurts as I look around at the number of young pastors and leaders who are enthusiastically serving with big dreams but who lack spiritual fathers in the generation ahead of them. The past is always part of our future. I recommend that at least 25 percent of a church leader’s reading be spent in pre-Reformation era writings and another 25 percent from the Reformation to the modern missionary age. Another 25 percent of our reading should be drawn from the generation just previous to ours and only the remaining 25 percent among contemporary authors.

We need a sense of parenthood as we mentor because it’s vital that we be grounded as we dream big dreams.

Phase 2: Pacesetting

The second phase of our ministry mentoring is pacesetting—being the example of what mature ministry looks like. In Paul’s second letter to Timothy, he points out, “You ... know what I teach, and how I live, and what my purpose in life is. You know my faith, my patience, my love, and my endurance” (2 Tim. 3:10). Paul sets the pace with his life and challenges Timothy to learn by keeping up and emulating his lifestyle.

You’ve probably heard people say that Christianity is always one generation from extinction. I think that might be oversimplifying it, but the fact is that no generation is exempt from the call to fulfill the Great Commission or to serve God’s purposes as fully as possible. The next generation is always watching, so we get to set the pace.

Phase 3: Partnering

Over in the book of Romans, there is a somewhat obscure reference that Paul makes to Timothy: “Timothy, my fellow worker, sends you his greetings” (Rom. 16:21). Timothy has gone from being a son to a student and now to a colleague and co-laborer.

We spend plenty of time desiring and praying for more laborers, but perhaps not enough time investing in those with the potential to become our partners in the mission. 

We serve today because of the repetition of this three-phase process for centuries. It didn’t stop with Timothy. The baton has been passed to you who are reading this, and it is our responsibility to be parents, pacesetters and partners with the next generation until Jesus comes!

Rick Warren is the founding pastor of Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, Calif., one of America's largest and most influential churches. Rick is author of the New York Times best-seller The Purpose Driven Life. His book The Purpose Driven Church was named one of the 100 Christian books that changed the 20th century. He is also founder of Pastors.com, a global Internet community for pastors.

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